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Orgasm Control & Edging for Premature Ejaculation

Instead of stumbling over the edge of ejaculation within a short period of time, orgasm control, gives you the ability to control your peaks and valleys.

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For a lot of men, sex without some sense of orgasm control could be like getting caught in a riptide. You have little control, and things can happen in an instant. However, if you learn how to harness orgasm control, you can ride the waves without falling off the metaphorical edge. (Until you decide it’s time, that is.) If you deal with premature ejaculation, mastering orgasm control and edging techniques could be exactly what you need to extend and amplify your pleasure while lasting longer in the bedroom. Premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating within 1 to 2 minutes of beginning stimulating penetration or foreplay. If that sounds like you, read on for orgasm control tips.

What is orgasm control?

Orgasm control is exactly what it sounds like - prolonging and controlling the timing of ejaculation. Instead of stumbling over the edge of ejaculation within a short period of time, orgasm control, or edging techniques, give you the ability to control your peaks and valleys. With orgasm control techniques, you bring yourself to the brink of orgasm to then purposefully back off to recover, so you can edge close once more. It’s like playing chicken with your orgasm. By keeping your orgasm just out of reach, you extend the duration of sex and often have more intense orgasms. These methods bring both men and women to peak arousal, which might be why orgasms are amplified.

Men want to last longer in the bedroom

Orgasm control foreplay and sex can be just what millions of men need to last longer in the bedroom. Between 30 and 40 percent of men will deal with premature ejaculation (PE) at some point in their lives. While women reportedly need 14 minutes of partnered stimulation on average before they can reach orgasm. The considerable orgasm latency gap between 2 minutes and 14 minutes is rather stark. To begin closing this gap, focus on increasing male stamina and bringing partners to peak arousal before penetration. Before trying orgasm control with your partner, make sure to communicate. Your partner will be an active participant in the edging experience so make sure you let them know what feels good and agree on vocal cues for momentarily backing off stimulation.

Sex with the goal of extending your stamina might look like this:

Stamina focused foreplay can help by:

  • Extending sex by controlling orgasms
  • Using refractory periods to recover while pleasuring a partner
  • Bringing a female partner to max arousal before penetration to help with offering her the most pleasure during intercourse. 

Take things slow

To increase stamina, one must avoid overstimulation. So it’s best to avoid any aggressive or intense foreplay. This kind of stimulation might cause over-excitement. Prior to sex, agree on stop-and-start vocal cues so you can work as a team to take things slow.

Turn her on

Start with your partner and focus on getting them aroused. Ask them what feels good, and explore that for a while. Remember: The operative word in foreplay is play. So make sure you’re both having fun, and she is feeling good. The more she desires you, the more she will enjoy penetrative sex. By making sure your partner is aroused and pleasured before penetration, you lessen the amount of time penetration is necessary for them to feel pleasure. Foreplay is also perceived as sexual performance, so if lasting during penetration is difficult, focus on pleasuring your partner in other ways.

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Edging during fellatio or manual stimulation

When or if fellatio or manual stimulation begins, try the edging technique to extend male pleasure. Right when you’re edging close to climax, have your partner momentarily pull away, allow yourself to recover, and then begin edging close again. Control your orgasm for as long as you can before allowing yourself over the edge. Listen to your body, and know it’s okay if you only edge once or twice. Stamina is increased over time. A man orgasming before penetration could help with lasting longer as the first orgasm has released much tension.

Recover while you bring her to max arousal

During the male refractory period, recover while offering reciprocal oral sex or whatever your partner enjoys. This can bring your partner to their peak arousal state before penetration even begins. This will increase her pleasure during intercourse, even if it doesn’t last too long.

Jump in, the water is fine

Time to jump in the deep end and start intercourse. Even if this only lasts a few minutes; your partner has been pleasured, and you’ve extended sex by a long shot. If they don’t orgasm before you ejaculate you can always help them over the edge afterward.

The key to excellent foreplay is communication

At times women want to delay their orgasm too. At times, if a woman orgasms during foreplay, the arousal might dissipate and penetration doesn’t feel all that great. Keeping their orgasm at bay might also work for their pleasure too. Ask your partner what she desires during sex. You will certainly learn something and be able to pleasure her more deeply. If she wants to try edging as well, perhaps both of you can work with orgasm control and peak together.

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