Lasting longer in the bedroom is on the minds of millions of men. Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction. Somewhere between 30 to 40 percent of men deal with premature ejaculation (PE) at some point in their lives.
Premature ejaculation is defined as a male reaching orgasm within one to two minutes of penetration. This leaves something to be desired as both parties report the ideal sex duration is between 10 to 25 minutes. With women orgasming within an average of 14 minutes with a partner. It’s no wonder premature ejaculation has men searching for answers. This is why we’ve compiled a list of 8 ways to help you last longer during sex.
Edging is exactly what it sounds like; it’s reaching the very edge of climax, then backing off, recovering a bit, and then continuing to the edge once more. It’s like playing chicken but with your orgasm. This technique is used by many people simply because it’s pleasurable, but it also helps to extend the duration of sex. If you have trouble with climaxing too quickly, edging (or orgasm control) might be the answer to your PE prayers. The ultimate problem with premature ejaculation is overstimulation. By taking things slow and edging yourself to orgasm, you are controlling the stimulation, thus controlling your orgasm.
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This technique is also often called the start and stop method. (Again, it’s all in the name.) You can use this technique while masturbating, receiving oral sex, and while having penetrative sex. The biggest thing with edging with a partner is communication. You’ll need to offer vocal cues of when to stop oral sex or any hand play.
The Mayo Clinic suggests this method as a safe and easy way to prolong ejaculation.
The pause and squeeze method is similar to edging but it adds an element of using manual pressure to help control orgasms. To try the pause and squeeze method try the following:
It would be a good idea to try this solo while masturbating to understand your own bodily triggers such as what it feels like to be getting close to an orgasm and when it’s time to keep going.
Sure, ejaculation might come a bit early but remember it is possible to go multiple rounds after your refractory period. Your refractory period is defined as a recovery period after orgasm. It’s the time between one orgasm and another.
During this time you cannot get an erection or ejaculate. If you have already ejaculated, use this recovery time to pleasure your partner. Just because you ejaculated doesn’t mean its the end of sex. Refractory periods range, some lasting just minutes, or hours, or days. Generally, young men’s refractory periods are much shorter than older men.
Young men can need as little as a few minutes while older men might need 24 hours, to continue having sex.
Try focusing more on foreplay as it can bulk out the intimacy time. If you are worried about "lasting" during penetration, instead focus your energy on the pleasure that comes before penetration. Even if you aren’t lasting very long during intercourse, you can take your sweet time pleasuring each other during foreplay.
The duration of sex doesn't have to be dictated by how long you can last during intercourse. You can stretch out sex duration by focusing more and more on foreplay. Foreplay is perceived as a sexual performance by your partner. So if lasting is your worry, extending foreplay might be the answer.
Take your time and have fun with each other. Take things slowly while ramping up to the main event. More foreplay can allow cool-down periods for you so you can last longer during sex.
Most condoms are only designed to protect people from STDs and unwanted pregnancies. However, there are specifically designed condoms that can help to extend sex. These condoms are made of thicker material which helps to dull penile sensations. You can still experience pleasure with these condoms, but it will just take longer to feel fully stimulated (wink wink). You may be able to last longer with extended pleasure condoms.
Premature ejaculation could be because of overstimulation. This is why desensitizing condoms could help you last longer in the bedroom. These types of condoms often contain ointments called benzocaine or lidocaine which partially numb the tip of the penis temporarily. This can help to prolong penetrative sex. There are 4,000 nerve endings in a penis. A desensitizing condom can help block some stimulation to those sensitive nerves helping to extend your stamina.
It’s suggested to try these types of condoms a few times as desensitization might feel a bit foreign to you. Try a few brands out before ruling this option out. Practice makes perfect, eh?
One medical intervention for premature ejaculation is the off-label use of certain antidepressants like Sertraline. This medication is classified as a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) antidepressant. SSRIs tend to increase trouble with reaching orgasm. However, one man’s side effect is another’s treasure.
While those who are happy with their ejaculation periods might be frustrated with the increased trouble to orgasm, those with premature ejaculation troubles are rejoicing. Let’s look at a study with 46 men who all experience premature ejaculation. Researchers found before treatment with sertraline participants had an average bedroom stamina of 1 minute. After treatment, these men were lasting considerably longer in bed. Participants went from lasting just one minute to 7.6 minutes (25mg dose), 13.1 minutes (50mg dose), or 16.4 minutes (100mg dose).In another study, researchers claimed, “there is no doubt that PE can be treated effectively with SSRIs.”
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Think of this as training for the big game. When masturbating, practice some type of restraint or edging techniques. Start with a goal of not allowing an orgasm within 8 minutes. Even if you have to start and stop a million times. Try to get to that 8-minute mark before allowing yourself to ejaculate.
This can help improve your overall stamina and orgasm control. Once you can comfortably make it 7 to 10 minutes, try working up to 15 minutes. In addition to helping with overall stamina, masturbation can help with releasing built-up sexual tension. So when the time comes to join the big leagues, you won’t have built-up tension working against the pursuit of endurance.
If you experience premature ejaculation, you’re not alone.
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